The DOM Life Podcast

As Master Nick and Lady Dee renegotiate their contract, the first important step is to review their existing contract which they do in this episode. Their discussions include an overall contract discussion as well as an in depth look at sections and wording. This lets you see what was important in the beginning and what has become important as their relationship developed. 

Master Nick–Realizing that after 5 years we have followed more than I expected.

Lady Dee–That Master Nick and I have finally discussed our existing contract and finding it surprising how much we actually continued to follow it.
 

Master Nick–Having a good understanding of what you are looking to get out of your relationship, helps tremendously when making a contract.

Lady Dee–See Dante, we share all the details... 

Master Nick–Oh we are expanding upon... when we sit down to negotiation!

Lady Dee–Master Nick and I created a contract that has realistic expectations that fit it in with our life, there are things that need to be adjusted–but overall, I feel we did a good job and hope round 2 will improve upon the week areas. 

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In preparation of their contract negotiation, Master Nick and Lady Dee will be discussing negotiation in BDSM in this episode. Negotiation is a theme within BDSM since you need to set expectations and boundaries in order to successfully navigate meetings or meet ups, dungeon or private scenes, expected dynamics in a possible relationship, as well as long term contracts in existing relationships. 

Master Nick–Reminiscing about the night that we met, always makes me giddy.

Lady Dee–Talking about the experience last night at the club, it was an amazing night with so many new faces wanting to experience BDSM that we got to just be in our element. Plus Master Nick took care of me in the most wonderful way possible which ended our night–um, until we got home!! 

Master Nick–BDSM starts with negotiations, self-awareness is a must and you should be comfortable discussing your wants and needs.

Lady Dee–Negotiation is100%necessary in BDSM, from the initial meeting all the way to a long-term contract. Both, or all, parties involved should be able to define, explain and negotiate their desires and expectations. 

Master Nick–Your personal safety has to be YOUR top priority, make sure someone you know and trust, who is available, is aware of your intentions and location when meeting someone new whether itis at a private or public setting. If your gut instinct is waving a red flag–listen to it and get out.

Lady Dee–Public play is the safest route for BDSM, please–please–please consider doing this prior to any in home or private party events when you are not familiar with a Dom/Top or sub/bottom. It is the safest environment for initial interactions where there are monitors and others around to hear your safeword. 

 Master Nick and Lady Dee continue the interview with Jade and after getting to know her last episode, we immediately begin discussing the topics of sub-space, sub-drop and aftercare. Her experiences are with tops who do not live with her providing insight from a completely different perspective.  

 Master Nick – When Jade let us know about her after care list and she rolled her eyes to the back of her head to read it.  It was a great moment with her and I really want to see that list. 

Lady Dee –That when Jade arrives home, her wonderful husband has an aftercare routine to help her at the end of her night. 

Master Nick – Everyone experiences sub-space and sub-drop completely different.  It is very important to focus on these aspects of BDSM so you know the proper aftercare that the submissive requires.  

Lady Dee –During dungeon play sessions in large groups it becomes difficult to stay in the right mindset long enough to get into sub-space sometimes due to all the things going on around you.  Using headphones and blindfolds can assist a submissive to hit sub-space by removing distractions.

Master Nick – Almost everyone in BDSM has experienced a bad sub-drop remember that communication is key along with having a great support group to help you through it.  As I said in the interview, you don’t know what you need until you need it when it comes to sub-drop and after care. It’s very difficult for a Dom because how can you address something you don’t know is an issue.  

Lady Dee – Having a community to reach out to is so important when going through sub-drop following sub-space. Leaning on others allows you to gets acknowledgement and perspective on the feeling you are going through. 

Master Nick and Lady Dee interview Jade who is a submissive in order to discuss the topics of sub-space, sub-drop and aftercare from a perspective different than Lady Dee. Of course, we want to know more about how she started out in the kink world and what she enjoys. We are so happy that she opens up about her experiences.  

Master Nick – Getting to know more about Jade, how she started exploring the BDSM Lifestyle. 

Lady Dee – When she says that her and her husband spoke about tickling, and he convinced her that she has a tickle fetish and said this is weird, but I love you.

Master Nick – We learn through all the experiences that we have with others and that includes using implements that are a normal part of my routine.  This includes the electric wand where I figure out where issues might arise (red heads & sensitive skin) and warn others like I did Jade.  

Lady Dee – Jade spoke with us regarding the way she sees the difference between a kink and a fetish.  She explains that a kink is added in to sex or sexual activities, and a fetish is something that is necessary for an orgasm to happen.  

Master Nick – Finally, we come full circle with the tickling scene.  I originally discussed it without disclosing participants in terms of things I have seen that surprised me and opened my mind.  I then had Bear on and we were able to hear from his perspective as a Tickler and now I finally was able to discuss with Jade who was the Ticklee.  I’m so glad to have personally experienced this scene. 

Lady Dee – We always talk about communication being key in BDSM.  Jade is one of the best submissive communicators that we know and it helps those who top her ensure she gets what she needs.  This allows the Tops or Doms to be successful and have a great scene. 

Join Master Nick and Lady Dee as they continue their interview with Bear, a Dominant, who actively lives the D/s Lifestyle. In this episode he discusses how he developed into the Dominant he is today.  He explains a little about his Poly relationship and provides some details. We also finally start delving into his business.   

Master Nick – No kissing Bear, because every time he kisses someone lightning strikes and plus, his dance card is full.   

Lady Dee – When Bear says he wouldn’t have a problem if his women played together with each other. The way he said it made us all laugh and was all man.

Master Nick – If you have Hand fetish, sign up for a subscription to Lady Dee’s hand pics.   

Lady Dee – Just because you are a Dominant doesn’t mean you cannot love strong women who may or may not scare other men. 

Master Nick – I feel the need to discuss Bears craftmanship, the way he visualizes your hand and then crafts the handle of the floggers is truly an artist at work.   

Lady Dee – My flogger has been in the making over the past month, and I cannot wait to see it!!! I will no longer have to double fist Master Nick’s flogger. 

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